Me: Why is Papa upset?
J: Shua Shua.
Me: No. Papa is not upset with Shua Shua. Papa is never upset with you. I love you. But I'm upset with your behavior.
It takes effort to separate a child's identity from his behavior because this is not what we have learnt from our upbringing. This is not what we have learnt in school and society. But the more we see how the Father relates to us, the more we need to grow in our style of parenting. I don't know how many times I have apologised to my son in the process of learning to represent the Father accurately. Always thankful for His grace.
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